Refinement in the Wait
May 19, 2023 
Does it feel like you are always waiting for something? Waiting for the weekend, the next vacation, the chance to sleep in, a relationship, a new home, a new career, or just waiting to feel happy again?
Waiting is difficult. It’s the metaphor where you’re in a tunnel and you can see the light, you just haven’t made it there yet. Waiting is different than hope, it’s recognizing a change is on the horizon, but the ETA is entirely unknown.
Waiting can feel like being stuck; as if you are frozen in this time and place holding out for the ice to melt, one tiny drip at a time.
In the beginning, the anticipation can be exciting, as in the moment the first glimpse of light arrives. However, if you do not reach your destination in the time you thought it would take, the rest of the journey becomes a practice in waiting.
So how do we wait well? Or at least remove some of the heaviness from it…
Eckart Tolle tells us in The Power of Now, “So give up waiting as a state of mind. When you catch yourself slipping into waiting… snap out of it. Come into the present moment. Just be, and enjoy being. If you are present, there is never any need for you to wait for anything.”
Therefore, waiting leads us to believe all our joy is in the future and we must achieve our end goal, to be happy again. Eckart says this isn’t true. Your joy is found in the now. This very moment. When you are focused on the future and what you feel you currently lack, you are unable to see everything wonderful right in front of you. If you take your mind out of the projected future and bring it into the present moment, you are no longer waiting, you are living.
Yes, this is easier said than done. But wouldn’t you rather let go of waiting and experience joy now? Wouldn’t you rather enjoy the journey, living one moment at a time vs. living each day in the pain of what has yet to come?
Be grateful for the blessings you have now. Even when your life doesn’t look the way you expected – there is beauty in the in-between. There is refinement in the wait. There is a foundation being built based on trust, security, hope, longing, patience, and love.
Listen to your heart. If you can get quiet and become still, you will find your answer. You know exactly what to do, you just have to stop, surrender, and listen.
Life happens in the in-between. The destination is just another moment in time. Transform the journey into the most important part. Learn the lessons. Grow and become the person you always knew you could be. Live up to your highest potential. And the only way to do this is to use the wait/the journey as fertile ground for endless possibilities today.
Do not miss out on the miracle right in front of you because you are too focused on where you thought you would be by now.
Drop all expectations and see what amazing opportunities life hands you instead.
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